3/6/2020 0 Comments
Shame is the condition of being disconnected from the truth of who and what we are. The experience of the disconnect is very painful and quite disorienting. It opens up a space of darkness within us that the mind then explains or justifies as being there “because we are bad” or “there is something wrong with me.” This area of darkness breeds many negative emotions that mix together in this kind of heavy emotional goo—anger, resentment, frustration, sadness, loneliness, guilt, mistrust, doubt, hatred, self-loathing and more. These “shame pockets” get lodged in the physical body and tied into both negative beliefs and negative judgments. Many mechanisms are built around these pockets to keep them as they are—undisturbed and hidden—at all costs. And with those mechanisms there are patterns of behavior and self sabotage to further ensure the continuation of the existence of the shame pockets.
Uncovering and eradicating shame is particularly difficult because of how these shame pockets are constructed and maintained and that their aim is to stay hidden at ALL costs. BUT it can be done. Two key understandings are necessary before we dive in to the “here’s how to get it done” list. 1) These shame pockets are organized by themes. They may be interrelated, but each “topic” has its own pocket with a whole set of mechanisms around it. So taking shame “topic by topic” or area by area is the way to go. 2) Ultimately the work that needs to be done is spiritual in nature, because the original rift or separation is spiritual in nature. More on this to come.
So to begin your journey of dismantling and releasing shame, first identity the specific “pocket” or theme you are going after. Once you have identified the area of shame that you are ready to transform and transmute, you can begin working on these steps: